Marriage can become strained and exhausting.
Rather than growing together, it seems that you are growing apart, creating feelings of disconnection and loneliness.
Sometimes, arguments can become heated, causing each of you to say more than you should. This makes you ask yourself, “Is fighting a bad thing in my marriage?”
Things that are said by your spouse make you feel unappreciated and resentful. For many reasons, you are beginning to wonder if your partner even cares about your future together.
Communication inevitably turns into a blame game, making it seem impossible to address any issues.
Couples therapy can make a difference.
Whether small or large, couples therapy can help make changes that will bring you together rather than apart.
A couple may want to learn to communicate in a way that feels less chaotic. When I work with couples, we discuss issues that seem to raise a red flag. By listening to both sides, I strive to help couples learn to handle disagreements without escalating into major conflict.
Blaming each other only pulls you further apart. Therefore, I strive to help couples speak honestly and listen to each other as they identify problems that sound like blame. Then, I help them find ways to express their needs and appreciate each other’s roles.
There’s nothing wrong with fighting as long as it leads to resolution rather than further conflict. A major issue that can arise is when one member is unfaithful. Resolving this issue is not easy and requires a willingness to change and forgive.
What is therapy like with me?
Couples may consider seeking therapy, which can feel potentially embarrassing. My message to all couples is that relationships require maintenance because problems will arise. The best approach is to seek couples therapy before what seems to be small problems become major issues.
I understand that it can feel awkward to bring your relationship challenges to a virtual stranger. Nevertheless, my role is to help the relationship overcome the issues that are pulling you apart. Therefore, I don’t judge or take sides but strive to help you find workable solutions.
Therapy takes a look at the whole picture, compassionately and beneficial to both sides.
Whether your issues are small or large, here is a place to have an honest conversation and recalibrate your connection.
I thoroughly enjoy helping couples reconnect in meaningful ways.